I am infertile and have no idea how to break it to my husband and family?

I just found out that I'm infertile. How do I break this to my husband and family?

I really want to say thank you to the person asking this question. And I'm so sorry that you've experienced this and you're going through it.

Fertility and infertility can be such challenging topics to deal with, and it sounds like you're feeling worried and confused about how to talk to your husband and family.

First of all, it's important for you to take time for yourself. If you've just found out this news, there can be a lot of emotional feelings that arise, and it can make us feel like we're broken or insufficient or that we've failed in some way. It's so important for you to understand that being infertile or having infertility is not a reflection on who you are as a person.

It is not your fault, and it is something that often is not within our control at all. Yet it may be within our destiny. So really take some time to foster self compassion, to give yourself self care and to think about who is your community of support. It could be a professional, an educator or a close friend.

Second of all, you want to set aside a time and place to slowly talk to your husband first and then your family. But you get to decide what you say, how much you say and when to say it.

This topic is quite complicated and you don't have to explain everything. It can just be "I want to tell you that I'm struggling with my fertility. I think I may be infertile and I need your support on this journey." You don't owe anybody answers.

You should not be made to feel guilty or less than by anyone. So really think about giving yourself time and space to process this. Remember, you're in control of those conversations and you get to decide how much you want to stay and you're going to ask, especially your husband for support.

Sameera Qureshi

Sexual Health Expert

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